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RELATIONSHIP RATINGS I

by Venerable Master Hsing Yun (1927 - , Fo Guang Shan)
English translation: Man Ho

First-rate relationships between
mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws are like
the intimate relationship between mother and daughter.

Second-rate relationships between
mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws are like
the respectful relationship between friends.

Third-rate relationships between
mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws are like
the imperious relationship of queen to subject.

Fourth-rate relationships between
mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws are like
the spiteful relationship of two enemies.

First-rate husbands
have a sense of humor and help with chores.

Second-rate husbands
enjoy tea with their newspaper,
and praise their wives constantly.

Third-rate husbands
are bullies and complainers.

Fourth-rate husband
revel with friends and return home late.

First-rate wives
are virtuous and keep neat homes.

Second-rate wives
comfort and praise their husband.

Third-rate wives
are nags and complainers.

Fourth-rate wives
gossip and make trouble.

First-rate friends
help correct your mistakes by
showing you the right path.

Second-rate friends
encourage you and stay with you in adversity.

Third-rate friends
hang on influential people and are snobs to all the rest.

Fourth-rate friends
are dissolute, and lead the rest astray.

── from The Everlasting Light